Relationships

I spoke to two of my oldest friends for hours on the phone last night. Both conversations revolved around relationships and men from our past.

What I’ve learned over the past couple of years, is that relationships are often impacted by other people surrounding a couple. It’s the people that are talking in your ear about what you should do, how you should act in the relationship, always giving their personal opinion on whether or not it’ll work out, that debilitates the relationship to a point that it no longer feels natural because both parties are now only acting in a way that other people are coaching them to. There is no more intrigue or curiosity, no innocent wonder because the relationship is now a strategic chess match, each player now planning their next move.

It seems the only way for a relationship to last is for two people to be strong enough in their love for each other that they rise above all the noise. To add to my running stint of quotes, I was watching The Second Best Exotic Marigold Hotel the other night. There was a perfect quote in the finale that made me cry straight away because of it’s depth, it’s purity and it’s truth, that, “In the end, it’s all very simple: to look into someone’s eyes and to say ‘yes, it’s what I want’ and for them to say ‘it’s what I want too and there’s nothing to fear.’”

This is exactly what I want.

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2 thoughts on “Relationships

  1. addie north says:

    The worst breakup I ever had was caused by me, in my insecurity, taking advice from a friend who had a very different approach to dating and relationships than I did. My actions over the course of one 24-hour period completely changed my date’s view of my character and his ability to trust me. Honestly, the relationship would have ended anyway–the fact that I was insecure enough to take bad advice was already a red flag!–but if I’d just been myself things might not have crashed and burned so painfully!

    The bottom line is: if you can’t be yourself in a relationship, it’s not right for you!

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    • Disco Lemonade says:

      Love love love love love!!

      Absolutely adore this comment! It’s true. I had a conversation with my neighbours best friend one night stooping on the porch after the bars. He told me about all the girls he had dated over his life and how he used to tell himself that they’d be perfect in relationships if this or that was different about them. He told me, what I learned in the end is that if I feel they need to change then they’re just not right for me. It was a really profound thought about relationships

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